Life Lessons: Earn Your Seat

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One very important aspect of life is surrounding yourself with people who you can learn from. I’ve always been taught to watch and be very particular about that company you keep; I’ve also been taught that you can never stop learning. The goal is to make MEANINGFUL and STRATEGIC relationships in which all parties add value. Each party must earn their “seat”. In life, we must decide exactly what “table” it is that we want to sit at, then we must figure out a method in which to do so.

I work very hard for everything I have and I’m not going to let anyone who has not earned my seat simply take it.

Okay. So, I’ve said all this to say, when I went to the movies to see the new Power Rangers movie there was a younger, basic guy sitting in my seat. I told him hey you’re in my seat. He asked if I could sit in the seat right next to my seat and made a gesture like it was open and unclaimed. On the inside I’m like…

The movie had already started, so, I glanced back at the screen and decided I really just wanted to see the movie. I thought the easiest thing would be to sit down.

For about 10 minutes, I replayed the scene over in my head with clever comebacks; I loathed myself for not saying HECKKKKKKK NAHHHHHH GET UP OUT MY SEAT. It was more than a seat. It it was my respect. I vowed that day it would never let it happen again.

So, fast forward to tonight. It’s date night! I’ve been super pumped to see Girls Trip  and I dragged bae along. We were there on time ready to see if there were fashionable ladies smelling like shea moisture (lol jk did you guys read that post??) only to walk up and find someone sitting in my seat… I thought about my vow…

 

Me: Hi you’re in my seat. I politely flash my phone with the seat assignment.

Man: Well, there is someone in my seat – there’s nothing we can do about it. . .

Me: Oh no! Well you have to get them up. *smiled and laughed cute and politely*

Man: Huh? *gets and attitude*

Me: *Thinks to self: I can help him get this sorted out

*Thinks to self again: That’s not my problem

Only I didn’t think it…. I SAID IT OUT LOUD lol.

 

The man looks James up and down. Calculates that he doesn’t want to press his issue. He mashes the button to bring the reclined seat back to the resting position.

He  gets up and I watched as he claims his seat in the row in front of us. Then those people claim their seat from another couple. Sheesh. We movie theater junkies officially had enough. I’m a reasonable person and very kind. But listen, movie tickets cost $15 a pop. Ain’t no way Imma let someone sit in my seat!

23 thoughts on “Life Lessons: Earn Your Seat

      1. Reminds me of this time I took my sister to the movies. This man and his wife were in our seats and he kept trying to convince me that I was wrong about the seat numbers. I literally counted the seats off to tell him and he kept making me sound stupid. Better believe I brought the employees in to get him out. I want my middle seats *humph* lol.

      2. Right lol. Like don’t try me if I have the receipts! I’m not even gon’ argue with no one lol that’s what the employees are for

    1. Yeah I know people don’t show up sometimes but if the people show up get up quickly and move right along! Lol

  1. Haha, I totally enjoyed reading this. I’m proud of you for speaking up….when we refuse to speak up when necessary, it kills and shuns us silently and. I love the lessons you were able to pick out of it.
    I wouldn’t let anyone take my seat. NO WAY or else no one is watching any movie =D

  2. LOL, this is hilarious to me because sometimes I really question why people think you should give a hell about stuff that has nothing to do with you. Then expect you to understand and take that as a good enough reason to inconvenience/straight up disrespect you. Like NO.

    1. Right. When he said “there’s nothing we can do about it…” I was like who can’t do nothing lol like whatttt I’m going to do something about to!

  3. First of all I love this because I will remember this post the next time I go to the movies and best believe I will claim MY seat. Secondly this is a reminder to speak up for ourselves even when it seems easier to just let it go. Thanks for this!

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